Whenever you ask a girl what she wants in a guy she’ll use a lot of
words: she’ll rant about how he should love her unconditionally, how he
should be compassionate, should have a good job etc. She’ll finish her
little speech of sorts by saying that all she wants is a nice guy who
makes her happy. But is that always the case? Doesn’t the word ‘nice’
here means something totally different to you than it means to her?
When a guy thinks of the word nice,
it usually means having a solid job with a fat paycheque, being able to
support a family in the future and above all, being there for her. This
is the mistake we guys often make. We don’t really read between the
lines and all it gets us is the tag of her ‘best friend’, or a guy who
she’ll call when she ‘needs support’.
Here are the 10 reasons why the ‘nice’ guys always end up finishing last.
#1. Nice guys don’t have self respect.
Nice
guys don’t respect themselves. They don’t mind making fun of themselves
in a hope to seem attractive. They put themselves down most of the
times and they don’t care about getting pushed around by other guys.
#2. Nice guys easily agree to everything.
Nice
guys fake being sweet that doesn’t let them voice their opinion, and
that causes them to get easily flustered. At other times, they might
just end up bottling up their anger that suddenly burst out one day, out
of the blue, hurting others and often leaving themselves alone.
#3. Nice guys are needy & insecure.
Nice
guys start off as sweet and caring, but end up becoming too needy and
insecure in a relationship because they have trust issues. They look for
‘The One’, and every girl they end up dating is their prospective ‘The
One’. They feel a change in the forces of the universe if their woman
mentions another man.
#4. Nice guys tend to be boring.
The
nice guys are never very fun because they don’t like taking risks and
always want to play it safe. This quality makes them great friends who
can provide good and stable advice about life, but bad boyfriends who
are too predictable and boring.
#5. A nice guy isn’t an alpha male.
A
great girl always wants to date a guy who can be in control of his life
and gain the respect of his friends. If your friends don’t respect you
or listen when you voice your opinions, it’s a sure sign that you’re a
nice guy who gets walked over often, even by your ‘friends’.
#6. Nice guys are easy to manipulate.
Nice
guys are easily manipulated because they allow themselves to be
manipulated, even if they realise that they’re being manipulated. This
can frustrate any girl they’re dating because nice guys almost always
end up doing stuff they should not, ultimately compromising the
relationship.
#7. Nice guys avoid confrontations.
Nice
guys can’t always defend the girl they like and try to resolve any
issues by being polite and courteous to even those who don’t deserve it.
They never challenge anybody’s views directly. Instead, they try to get
their point across through cheeky manipulation which can annoy any girl
who hates feeling manipulated.
#8. Nice guys want miracles.
Nice
guys constantly look to the future for a better life – be it by earning
more money or getting a great job, but they do nothing to change the
present, even though they know they need to change their behaviour. They
live in their own world of fantasy, and when that bubble bursts, they
suffer.
#9. Nobody takes nice guys seriously.
No
one takes a nice guy seriously because he never wants to offend anyone.
He’s too accommodating and everyone treats him like a pushover. All
they want is to be accepted and they’ll do whatever it takes to get
there.
#10. Nice guys get stressed by difficult situations.
A
girl would want to date a guy who’s her rock and her strength, not a
scared little pussy cat who’ll run away at the first chance he gets.
Nice guys aren’t protective or aggressive enough. He can’t fight for his
girl, and that’s one of the basic ‘evolutionary needs’ of a girl – to
feel protected and secure around her man.
Is being a ‘nice’ guy… nice? Does not look like it. But hey, let me tell you one thing though: you are good enough for her.
Be confident! Be honest – with yourself, and with her, and she will be
happy to be by your side, and your relationship will be based on mutual
affection, as opposed to being a one-sided love affair.
What do you think?
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Courtesy: Youth Connect
